A friend in
Facebook asked where I got the inspiration for this topic. Well, believe it or not, I had a flashback in a public toilet -
hoho! I was using the urinal when the cubical behind me opened and someone came out. For some reason, I half expected someone else to come out after him.
Which invoked memories of the time when two guys actually stepped out of the bathroom in my apartment, one after the other!
That was when I was still a Holy Joe studying in Sydney and sharing an apartment with some fellow believers. I was the
de facto head of this Christian household.
One day, this skinny guy I met in church (let's call him
Lex) approached me and said he had been kicked out of his flat. I didn't know what the reason was but being the compassionate soul I was (and still am), I offered him the spare room. He was very happy and quickly settled in.
Lex was a Chinese Malaysian and, despite his unusual predicament, had a brilliant mind - he was a medical student! God knows where he is now, but I wish him well.
I can't remember all the details but soon after, I realised something was amiss.
Lex was bringing this Aussie chap home with him! One fine day, I caught them emerging from the shower, the first a few minutes before the second - to avoid being discovered!
Naturally, I felt totally betrayed!
Lex knew I was a Christian and yet had the gall to use my premises as a venue for his sexual trysts. So I told him to leave.
He actually wept in front of me. And I had my first, and probably last, heart-to-heart talk with a gay man.
Lex was
effeminate in gesture and appearance, not one of those
masculine gays like Rock Hudson. He told me homosexuals were very promiscuous - practically hopping from bed to bed. He told me many librarians in Sydney were gay. He could not study in the University library because the librarians - many old and wrinkled - kept hounding him for sex!
Lex said his brothers were all straight. From young, he had found the woman's naked body repulsive! The sight of bananas and
rambutans (a hairy round fruit) attracted him! (I kid you not - that was what he told me!)
So what conclusion can I draw on the matter? There are definitely some people who are born gay. You can ask them to abstain from sex but you can't change them. At the same time, I think a permissive environment, like the one in the West, encourages straight men to experiment with gay sex. Some of them acquire the taste for it. It's a convenient lifestyle, after all. Men don't need foreplay or flowers, don't ask for
commitment and, most important of all, don't get pregnant.
What's my take on the
Anwar case? Let me answer that with a question. Gay men are not blind and fall for beauty like the rest of us. Do we honestly believe that a rich and powerful homosexual male would choose a partner like Dr
Munawar Anees (bless him), when there are so many pretty young boys around? Enough said.
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